TEMPO.CO, Jakarta - Before seeking a partner, it is vital for you to recognize whether your prospective partner is emotionally unstable or not. People with emotional instability commonly create drama in their life that will drain your energy out or may frustrate you.
As summarized from Psychologytoday.com, the followings are 10 signs that a person you are going out with may be emotionally unstable. You can then decide to keep staying with this person or not.
1. The person easily angry and make people upset
This person commonly makes jokes or says something without thinking about the consequences. They easily become angry and upset over a single thing not being as they expect.
2. The person has no commitment to do things
A person with stable emotion is capable to keep their commitments in whatever they do, including being on time. They will arrive in time and fulfill their promises.
3. The person has a dramatic family
Sometimes, someone's character can be seen from their family. If they don't have loving, care, and reliable relatives, they tend to be emotionally unstable.
4. Have no empathy
This person has no sensitivity about others. You can see this sign from their response when you face a certain situation. Commonly, someone with no empathy likes to talk about themselves instead of giving an emphatic or supportive response toward others.
5. He/she tries to one-up you
When you make a statement, your partner always tries to beat your statement with his/hers. They do not want you to become a center of the conversation, so they will try to one-up you.
6. The person acts stiff to others
An emotionally unstable person does not know how to express gratitude and tries to gain a benefit from others. They will be fine with themselves even when they ignore people as long as they get something.
7. The person cannot admit own mistakes
Never admitting their own fault is a sign that they lack emotional skills. The will lie and make excuses instead of confessing the mistakes.
8. Fear of critics and rejection
A person without unstable emotion cannot deal with critics, evaluation, or negative comments from others. They tend to have a mood swing and fearful of being criticized or rejected.
9. Run from a problem
If you have a partner who does not willing to talk or have a discussion to solve problems, she/he may be emotionally unstable. They tend to hide from responsibilities rather than dealing with it.
10. Has a dramatic story in the past
It is better for you to dig stories of the past of your prospective partner before you commit to going out with this person. If they're ever in a short-time relationship before you, it means that they cannot maintain a stable relationship for a long time.