TEMPO.CO, Jakarta - One of the essential life decisions you must face is to choose a life partner or soul mate. Nature might not blatantly provide the clear signs for you to weigh, but the heart and mind can always be depended upon analyzing whether a man you are interested in is the right one for you.
1. He respects your personal life
A good life partner material is the one that can respect what you yearn for and the things that mean the most to you.
As Shannon Thomas explained in her book entitled Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse; “A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won't feel the need to hold you back.
Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner. Dating someone who is happy with their life means they can be happy for you and alongside of you."
2. Healthy communication
Marrying another person means that you will spend the rest of your life with someone. This is why it is essential for you to make sure that your future life partner is someone that can engage in a conversation and could also listen to you.
“This is what made me determine who my husband will be. Ever since we dated he is able to engage in any type of discussion. Paying close attention to what i talk about and is always involved in an in-depth discussion,” said Psychologist Roslina Verauli in her book entitled ‘Women: Understanding True Love.’
3. He can fit in with your friends and family
Pay close attention, can he blend in with your friends and family? If so, is your relationship with his family and friends great? Whatever it may be, friends and family are the people that knows us the most and would speak frankly to us.
“The family’s response on our partner is very important. Because it is difficult to identify a life partner’s intrinsic quality of someone when we are falling in love, We are often irrational and not objective during that phase” said Roslina.
4. He provides a sense of comfort
You would feel that you do not have to worry about anything in his company, you can be who you truly are, you can have any type of physical qualities and still have him by your side without demanding too much. In the end, you bear the right to feel comfortable in a long term relationship.